Sometimes you really want a girl to like you, but don’t know where to start.

First, you need to gain her trust.

Girls have built in instincts to distrust guys. It’s simple biology: Females were smaller and weaker, so they learned to spot and avoid potentially threatening males.

The two best methods to lower her shields are through humor and compassion. Since humor varies from person to person, I am going to stick with a universal method to demonstrate compassion.

This method works when she texts you about her problems. You can also set up this situation by asking how she’s doing, etc.

Note: If you’re a cave troll, then you have other things to work on before this will work for you. I also do not promote psychological manipulation with this method. Don’t be an asshole.

Be there for her, but only give 25%

What do I mean by this?

Well, when a girl texts you about her problems, she’s putting a lot of trust in you, and that’s a really valuable thing.

Most guys will fuck it up using a combination of these two methods:

1. Tell her to get over it. Push through and solve it in a logical way
2. Nod and acknowledge. Let her ramble

Neither of these will solidify her trust in you, and they both won’t actually solve her problem! She will appreciate your advice but turn around and throw it in the garbage.

Your job is not to solve her problems. It’s to be comforting and emotionally understanding.

This is the 25%. It’s so fucking easy to do.

When a girl says, “My best friend is ignoring me, and I don’t know what to do,”

There’s no underlying meaning. She’s being genuine. But don’t try to solve her problem! Instead, you need to relay your understanding of her emotional pain and show concern.

“That’s gotta be hard. Are you doing ok?”

This will in turn ignite an emotional response.

“Yeah, but it just hurts a lot. I don’t even know why she isn’t talking to me… (this can go on for a while)…

Repeat this for as long as needed. If you’ve been in a similar situation, share it with her. She will be more comfortable talking to you if she knows that you’ve felt what she’s feeling now.

“I understand. That shit really sucks. My friend did the same thing to me last year… (brief summary)… …but your situation sounds a lot worse. I can’t even imagine what you’re feeling right now.”

If she directly asks for advice, tell her what she should do, but be conscious of how it could make her feel.

“What do I do? How would you fix this?”

“I’d say go talk to your friend in person. I know it sounds scary, but it’s probably your only chances of reaching her... (etc., etc.)

If you do these steps correctly, she will associate you with good feelings and wisdom, even though you barely said shit. Plus this method actually helps her solve her own problem.

Pro tips:

• Don’t go overboard. She will know when you’re trying to butter her up.
• Be genuine. All you have to do is understand her emotions, which doesn’t require you to fake anything.
• Ask questions about her situation. Try to narrow down what you’d do in her situation by gathering information on the problem at hand.

I’ll catch you on the flip.

-Mark

We’ve all been left on read before, and it’s not a good feeling. You’ve heard the obvious advice like workout, smile, improve your hygiene, and all that other shit, but nothing seems to be working. Well let me tell you why girls don’t like you:

#1) First of all, you’re fucking boring.

You probably don’t do much outside of work, school, or sleep.

You don’t have any substance to work with.

You don’t have a hobby.

By practicing a hobby, you:

• Make yourself memorable – everybody remembers the guy making computers in his spare time, but never the computer engineer
• Meet more people and practice your social skills – even if you’re just talking to cashiers at your local hobby shop, it’s an improvement
• Have an interesting topic to talk about – you don’t want to talk about it 24/7, but it’s a way to display passion and carry a conversation

People, especially girls, love passionate individuals. It shows charisma.

Plus, you might find a career out of it later in life!

But how do you find a hobby?

Well, if you’re reading this article, you probably don’t have much passion to begin with. My recommendation is to throw everything at the wall and see what sticks. Most hobbies are things you’d never expect to enjoy.

You’ll know you’re on the right track if it keeps you up at night thinking about it.

And I’ll give you another hint: video games are not a hobby. Don’t kid yourself. Everyone plays video games nowadays, and the skills they teach you don’t amass to anything. You’re just wasting valuable time.

Girl: “So what do you do for fun?”

You: “I play video games for 7 hours a day.”

Girl: “Wow… that’s cool..”

I don’t care if you collect newspapers or practice extreme ironing. Just don’t pick video games. It’s a bad decision.

One of my friends loves Legos. He’s 21… And he’s a lady’s man.

Other than video games, don’t worry about what people think. Do what you love, and it will come out in your personality.

#2) You don’t treat girls like people.

You’re the type of dude who either

• Puts girls on a pedestal and laughs at everything they say, or
• Reads Red Pill articles and treats women like objects.

Grow the fuck up.

Women are people just like you and me. They don’t want nice guys, and they don’t want douchebags. They want genuine people.

“Nah, you’re just a pussy boy. Girls want guys who treat them like shit. Trust me. I’ve fucked over 20 girls this month.”

-Brad, a Red Pill douchebag

Look, buddy. I’ve been on the Red Pill before for a whole year. I know it works – but only on very, very broken girls. If you want to go fuck some crazy girls, make literally zero genuine friends, and feel lonely all the time then be my guest. But that’s not what we do here.

And on the other hand, stop being so nice to girls. Don’t let them walk all over you. If you wouldn’t do something for a guy friend, then you definitely shouldn’t do it for a girl.

Intoxicate girls by being amazing, not with alcohol or manipulation.

That’s what a real Chad would do.

Don’t focus everything on gaining girls – that should be your secondary. Putting everything into the chase will make you desperate, and girls can smell that from a mile away.

The truth is, most ladies’ men don’t even care if they get girls. They’d rather get in that extra lift or complete another sale. It makes girls (and guys!) feel like you are a man of self control and societal worth.

Treat girls like people. Not puzzles to solve.

#3) You aren’t trustworthy.

All girls have trust issues. It’s built into their genes, and for good reason! It goes back to evolution.

Since females were (generally) weaker than males, they had to learn which males they could trust. One wrong decision could cost them their lives.

Nowadays it’s not that extreme, but that instinct is still there. The easiest way to lose a girl is to lose her trust.

One way to gain girls’ trust is to be genuine by presenting your motives clearly through your actions. This is hard to do, but the best methods I’ve found are through humor and compassion.

All right I’ve got stuff to do. I’ll post more later!

Good luck out there guys.

-Mark

You make choices every day. Some are good, some are bad. The bad ones are what break you.

Living healthily and happily requires you to make good decisions.

• Going to bed early
• Eating three healthy meals per day
• Planning ahead

These are all examples of good decisions. Bad decisions are the results of your weaknesses.

• Going to bed late / not sleeping enough
• Not eating enough / eating too much
• Staying in a bad relationship

These are all examples of bad decisions. And I’m willing to bet that you make bad decisions every day even when you know they’re wrong. Hell, I do it too.

This is a consequence of poor priority management. You value your own comfort and satisfaction more than your long term goals, if you even have any.

And all of it fuels regret. If you continue to make poor decisions, your life will be filled with it and it will cloud your everyday thoughts.

The 70/30 rule

30% of your success will come from making the right decisions, and

70% of your success will come from avoiding the wrong ones.

Take a sheet of paper right now. I’m serious, stop reading after you read this paragraph. Write down every bad decision you’ve made today, big or small. Write down what went wrong and why it went that way. You’ll start to see a pattern.

Odds are, most of your poor choices are branching from 2-3 identifiable weaknesses. Maybe you didn’t do well on an exam because you couldn’t pull away from the TV all week. Perhaps your pride made you start a verbal fight with a friend over something stupid.

Whatever your weaknesses are, learn to identify when they’re getting in the way of your decision making.

For now I must go, but I will continue this topic later.

Until next time,

Matt